When people act on what *may* happen, we are
crossing a boundary
with almost unimaginable consequences.
Why should the assistant pay for
the husbands roaming eye
and the wife's fear of keeping him honest?
This
couple should take their nuptial issues to a councilor
or take the consequence
and get a divorce.
Though it appears you have achieved some
degree of
insight into the situation, you don't seem to have carried
it
through to its ultimate conclusion. You have recognized
that there is a serious
implication for the husband and
wife, and that they need to confront the
significance of
"the husbands roaming eye and the wife's fear of keeping
him".
You suggest a councilor or divorce. Serious remedies
suggested
for a serious issue - so far so good. But wouldn't
you agree that the husband
and wife are going to need some
time to work this out, now that they have
recognized they
have a problem? Then if you accept that, don't you think
perhaps the husband should stay away from the assistant
until he has dealt
with his marriage issues, one way or the
other?
From the way it was
described, it was an untenable
situation. He needed to put some space between
himself and
the assistant quickly, and gain some perspective on what was
happening. Since she worked for him, she had to go.
You stated your
conclusion up front of your comment:
"When people act on what *may* happen, we
are crossing a
boundary with almost unimaginable consequences."
That
was insightful, and I agree there are broader
implications in recognizing that
some working relationships
are untenable. Recognizing what *may* happen, as you
put it,
is reasonable and prudent. We all have limitations.
Sometimes we find
it is best to avoid somebody we don't get
along with if we can. Clearly there
are times we may want to
keep a distance from someone where there is a powerful
emotional or physical attraction. We are not children, and
we recognize that
at times these situation may occur and
could ultimately lead to our
demise.
By acting on what *may* happen, we are crossing a
boundary that
we need to cross. The broader implication is
that in any situation where
individuals have to work closely
together, we must recognize that there will be
times where
such a close working relationship may become untenable,
whether
due to an emotional or physical attraction or simply
due to that fact that the
two can't get along. If such
should evolve, it is both reasonable and prudent
to separate
the individuals involved.
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